Cougars…are you one?
March 7th, 2008
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I think its cool for women to be “cougars”. Like Janice said, men have been doing it for years, plus with the limited supply of available men, especially black men for black women, the sistas are going to HAVE to expand the stream from which they are willing to fish! HAVE AT IT SISTAS!
I think it is a matter of choice of the individual. If a person is mature and you have some commonalities….go for it! In any relationship, I believe open communcation is the key.
In my opinion, the phrase “Cougar” is another smart and beguiling term from Hollywood. It sets a nice trend for the mid-thirties and above lady who doesn’t want to have limits placed on her relationship options. To let the truth be told, a Cougar is a predator. My question is this, “are there limits on compatability?” Compatability can be preyed upon on many levels. There are so many things that an older woman has experienced(Hillary) v.s. a younger man. In some ways there is a disadvantage to the younger man. Now, I know that this is not the case all the time. But it happens. The result ends in high turnover in relationships. Does anyone remember the term “metrosexual” that came out of Hollywood some years ago. They coined a term to describe men who were very sensitive to their femanine qualities. Men could wear the soft pinks, coral, and baby blues and all the while get their nails and feet done along with their girlfriends. It was cool because they were just good ole metrosexuals. Then the undercover brother phenominon hit the scene and the metro’s skidded out of the arena…Now, That is a funny occurance. All from a phrase that was cool for the time.. I’m not apposed to age variances. It’s the compatability that needs to be equally yoked…
I have to say, I disagree with N. Wideman. Women who choose to enter relationships with younger men are not “predators”! I think this type thinking is indicative of how the “rules” are different for men and women. If a woman is in a relationship with a younger man, she is considered a “predator”. If a man is in a relationship with a younger woman he is considered at the top of his game!
Get a life, men! Sistas, in the words of our sister, Mary J, “Go for what you know!